SOCIAL MEDIA WILL KILL YOUR MARRIAGE!
Social Media can and will kill your hope of finding your soulmate and if you are not careful it can kill the relationship you currently have!
It is all about having realistic expectations and not believing everything you see and hear on social media.
Much like everyone else, I am active on social media and I can sometimes loss track of time scrolling through photos on Instagram and articles and stories on Facebook. And the one thing that makes me the most sad is the articles that make marriage look like a dream vacation.
I am going to let you in on a little secret that social media doesn’t tell you. NO RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE IS PERFECT! Seriously! What social media does not want you to know, is that not all couples smile all the time. Not all couples go to bed spooning one another. Not all of your high school friends have found life’s secret to never-ending happiness in their relationships. Behind all of those grossly over happy, smily photos on Facebook and Instagram are relationships that have just as many moments of sorrow, pain and tears. Sorry if that sounds harsh. But that is just the God honest truth!
I cringe at stories that make waiting for “Mr. Right” seem like “Mr. Right” is some sort of perfect man, always romantic, always saying all the right things, never argues, has no physical or mental flaws, selflessly gives and never needs any attention of his own. I have never met this man or this woman and I am 100% certain that they do not exist. My man, although he is perfect for me, is not a perfect person and neither am I. These idea of a “Mr. and Mrs. Right” are unrealistic characterizations we create to satisfy a void in our own self confidence, and we see it plastered all over social media! Sure we all want to share the awesome time we had on a beach, in our little bikini, with an umbrella topped daiquiri in our hand, while warmly embracing our hottie husband. And sure that is a true image and a truth that most couples sometimes share….but what we don’t show are the equality disturbing photos of us puking our guts out because we indulged in one too many umbrella topped daiquiris several hours ago, while our sunburnt husband sits helplessly in a chair across the room wishing there was something he could do but is suffering from his own over indulgence and heat stroke. We also don’t share the photos of our real life sorrows or problems in our relationships, because we fear someone will judge us.
We cannot help ourselves, we will naturally share only the good times and then use other people’s good times to set unrealistic expectations of what the perfect person for us should be like, #relationshipgoals.
The only goals you should ever have, are goals you and your significant other set. So communicate with each other. Tell each other your dreams, let the other know what you want out of life, what you need from them and where you want to be (as a couple) in 10 years. Set goals, talk about them often and reap your successes with gratitude and love.
As for Mr. and Mrs. Right, I recommend working on how you can be the Mr. or Mrs. Right for you partner. Once you start focusing on being a better friend, a better lover, a better support and a better you, they will naturally follow suit and transform into a better person for you!